tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post8042632080346416832..comments2023-09-05T08:45:22.572+01:00Comments on Bête de Jour: Feedback Friday :: No Hard FeelingsLa Bêtehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05934460455824439786noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-1179615419698779702008-04-04T02:06:00.000+01:002008-04-04T02:06:00.000+01:00'Gandhi saw brahmacharya -spiritual and practical ...'Gandhi saw brahmacharya -spiritual and practical purity - as a means of becoming close with God and as a primary foundation for self realization. In his autobiography he tells of his battle against lustful urges and fits of jealousy with his childhood bride, Kasturba.He felt it his personal obligation to remain celibate so that he could learn to love, rather than lust.'<BR/><BR/>As you can see, Gandhi stopped sleeping with his wife... so his best friend's ex would have definitely been a no-no.... ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-34737106355706482892008-04-02T15:00:00.000+01:002008-04-02T15:00:00.000+01:00No me'm not. But thank you...No me'm not. But thank you...Larry Teabaghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08283701267147459665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-2339904353307798672008-04-01T20:30:00.000+01:002008-04-01T20:30:00.000+01:00Mr Teabag, thank you very much. That makes perfect...Mr Teabag, thank you very much. That makes perfect sense, and such lively examples. You should be an English teacher. Hey, maybe you are. Are you?La Bêtehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05934460455824439786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-21406963673811634872008-04-01T19:05:00.000+01:002008-04-01T19:05:00.000+01:00Bête, yes it is "Patricia and me", in this case.Th...Bête, yes it is "Patricia and me", in this case.<BR/><BR/>The pronoun takes the same case that it would do if the "Patricia and" wasn't there.<BR/><BR/>Hence you can tell that "a herd of bison bummed Patricia and me" is correct, because "a herd of wildebeest bummed I" is obviously wrong. But "Patricia and I joined Al Qaeda" is right because "me joined Al Qaeda" is pure Ali G.Larry Teabaghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08283701267147459665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-59065283042815857392008-03-31T23:12:00.000+01:002008-03-31T23:12:00.000+01:00So, by your answer I must understand that everythi...So, by your answer I must understand that everything is based on real facts?.<BR/><BR/>Then, I'm sorry about how you may have felt.<BR/><BR/>When I said I would be let down if it all was a maked up story it was because in that case all the good that you represented or transmited didnt exist at all.<BR/>And so, while I understand how hard it must have been for you to get to the point where you are at right now in this moment in your life, I can also see or believe that there must be some kind of positive thing about it all.<BR/>I mean, you are great writer!<BR/>That could be one of the positive things I was talking about.<BR/><BR/>I do not believe in any kind of god (Im not saying god does not exist, is just that Im not interesed in such a god) or whatever, and I do not find any comfort on hearing/being told by others "other people is so much worst than you" or such things supposed to cheer yourself up... but I have learned that no matter how much time takes, good things end up coming your way, always.<BR/><BR/>It may sound silly, but I can tell you that from my own experience.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I never wanted to sound mean or whatever.<BR/>(I guess I detected some kind of sarcasm or something in your reply commenting other replies.<BR/><BR/>Be well, <BR/>Lilith.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-44329981983730518782008-03-31T13:06:00.000+01:002008-03-31T13:06:00.000+01:00Heya, Hope you don't feel too freaked out about th...Heya, <BR/><BR/>Hope you don't feel too freaked out about the whole situation, even if you do I see you're down to 17st 4!!!! Well done you svelte bunny!<BR/><BR/>Sam xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-48467988473834768262008-03-31T12:11:00.000+01:002008-03-31T12:11:00.000+01:00Well, like many here, I'm having difficulty seeing...Well, like many here, I'm having difficulty seeing what the fuss is about. You were both free, consenting adults, after all.<BR/><BR/>I note that not many have taken up your "worst thing I've ever done" challenge, and most of those who have are remaining anonymous. I'm not going to join in here - there are a lot of things that I'm not exactly proud of, but I'm going to save those for my own blog, thanks.Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09182126029037714531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-40946957804005874442008-03-31T09:58:00.000+01:002008-03-31T09:58:00.000+01:00Hey, Louche. Karma eh? I really wish I could belie...Hey, Louche. Karma eh? I really wish I could believe in karma, but I don’t. I don’t necessarily think there’s any justice in the world.<BR/><BR/>Bittersweet Me, Shimacat, I was a bit surprised myself, but at the same time, not. I don’t think – for example – Peter Pan would sleep with his best friend’s girlfriend. Actually, he’s probably not the best example. Who’s heroic and highly moral? Raffles? No. Biggles? No. Who am I thinking of? Gandhi. That’s it. Gandhi would never sleep with his best friend’s ex. So I suppose, neither should I. <BR/><BR/>Thanks, Hendo, Dan and TheTelf! That’s always great to hear. <BR/><BR/>And Anonymous, thanks for that. You should keep a blog. <BR/><BR/>Penelope, I’m not ignoring you, honest. I’ll reply to your email very, very soon, if I haven’t already. <BR/><BR/>Teabag, I’m sorry. My grammar’s quite good on the whole but I have a couple of blind spots, things that no matter how many times I have them explained to me, just don’t stay in my head. This is one of them. ‘Patricia and I’ still sounds right to me. Is it really wrong? Then how come it’s not <I>Withnail & Me</I>?<BR/><BR/>Vicky, you’ll never guess what I did on Saturday night. Keith and I were sharing a room in Newcastle, we’d both had quite a lot to drink and one thing just led to another….<BR/><BR/>Not really. <BR/><BR/>Lilith and Beggars, you have no idea how much joy it brings me that you suspect me of being a ringer. Do people really do that? I suppose they do. People do all kinds of things. I have this image now of someone getting to the end of a particularly messy, painful life and saying, ‘That’s OK, I was just fleshing out a character for a novel I was working on. You didn’t think any of that was real, did you?’ Maybe I’ll try it. Now if you can help me with the book deal, I’d be very, very appreciative.La Bêtehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05934460455824439786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-3289640212703516782008-03-29T12:18:00.000+00:002008-03-29T12:18:00.000+00:00I wondered like Lilith if you were just an author ...I wondered like Lilith if you were just an author penning out one of his characters. I feel bad admitting that, but you do write that well. I didn't overstate my last compliment of you, and no, it was not overboard. You do write well. <BR/><BR/>While I am shocked to see the You/Patricia thing, what shocks me more is that people got all huffy about it. I mean, what do they care? It's not their life. I can understand Keith being hurt, but the internets? Pssht.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09359114781540806363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-18228763629357828592008-03-29T00:48:00.000+00:002008-03-29T00:48:00.000+00:00As far as I see/read I cannot understand why some ...As far as I see/read I cannot understand why some people should be so upset about you and Patricia and the whole thing.<BR/><BR/>To my mind what it counts is that (as it seems) no one ended up (too) hurt at the end.<BR/><BR/>...<BR/><BR/>Sometimes after reading your posts (which I do regularly although I do not always leave a comment) I go thinking about wether if you actually exist or if you are only a great writer that by keeping this blog is trying to make some kind of sociological study or trying to get a deal in order to get a book published, that sort of thing.<BR/><BR/>I guess we all mix a bit of fantasy and reality when telling our tales and stories (autobiography sounds such a posh word to me), so I dont really care or mind that much if when writing you change your name or the colour of your eyes because I cannot see them anyway. What I care more about is about the veracity of the feelings and experiences you write about because in my opinion that is what shapes the soul/mind of the person you write about (yourself?) and which makes me laugh or cry or whatever, but it always moves me. <BR/><BR/>On the one hand, I wished it all was a faked story because that would mean you havent really been thru all the shit you had gone thru... but on the other hand, I wish is genuine.<BR/><BR/>In the first posts I got the feeling you were measuring your words but in recent posts you have gained confidence and that has helped to show another side of you that has help(ed me) to see the whole picture and it turns out you are a beautiful human being.<BR/><BR/>You are a great writer, but as I said before, I wouldnt have any more interest in reading you, I would feel, somehow, let down if all was just a fiction..<BR/><BR/>Be well,<BR/>Lilith.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-72482427509855356822008-03-28T21:58:00.000+00:002008-03-28T21:58:00.000+00:00I don't think poking your best mate ex was the mos...I don't think poking your best mate ex was the most wise decision , but your only human. Glad to hear you can patch it up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-31558205085926697182008-03-28T21:38:00.000+00:002008-03-28T21:38:00.000+00:00It's wonderful that two people who didn't seem to ...It's wonderful that two people who didn't seem to value each other very much seem to have found considerable value in you. Enjoy the fruits of your labour.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-61054927520790723422008-03-28T19:31:00.000+00:002008-03-28T19:31:00.000+00:00Well, I suppose I can see how you might have just ...Well, I suppose I can see how you might have just got swept up in the moment. I don't blame you, but I don't really blame Keith for feeling betrayed and upset either. Damn that moral complexity!<BR/><BR/>I do think that you might just owe Keith a blowjob or something though.<BR/><BR/>Have a fab time on your jaunt!<BR/><BR/>VickyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-20308459482911790262008-03-28T19:18:00.000+00:002008-03-28T19:18:00.000+00:00From a new reader. I'm simply amazed anyone could ...From a new reader. I'm simply amazed anyone could be upset enough by what happened to send you an annoyed email. People are weird. You were both single. She wanted you, you wanted her, you made her feel wonderful, beautiful, loved and vice versa. <BR/><BR/>BTW, like other readers of your wittily-penned blog, I think you are likely to find your next partner by the power of your typing fingers and creative thoughts...Shimacathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13310854234183039834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-30389340629642185502008-03-28T18:50:00.000+00:002008-03-28T18:50:00.000+00:00Bete, I am truly shocked by this."...what recently...Bete, I am truly shocked by this.<BR/><BR/><EM>"...what recently passed between Patricia and I"</EM><BR/><BR/>I assume you mean <EM>"...Patricia and <STRONG>me</STRONG>"</EM>.Larry Teabaghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08283701267147459665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-75591917260931566662008-03-28T16:38:00.000+00:002008-03-28T16:38:00.000+00:00I sent you an email, not anything bad, I thought i...I sent you an email, not anything bad, I thought it was quite good actually, but you didn't reply, but then I am getting used to you ignoring me heh!<BR/>Have a great weekend ;o)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-13382185859393109812008-03-28T16:19:00.000+00:002008-03-28T16:19:00.000+00:00Actually, that's not true. I do have sex with othe...Actually, that's not true. I do have sex with other men (but still not my ex). But he (my new husband)does too, at the same time with the same fella, so that makes it OK.<BR/><BR/>Now I am all secreted out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-4965117275993221842008-03-28T16:17:00.000+00:002008-03-28T16:17:00.000+00:00I had sex with my ex husband while engaged to my n...I had sex with my ex husband while engaged to my now new husband. <BR/>The sex with my ex was better than the sex with my fiance.<BR/>I stopped having sex with my ex (no hard feelings), kept having sex with my fiance, married my fiance, remained not having sex with my ex (still no hard feelings. Special guy, that one) and have managed to just keep having sex with my now husband (then fiance). The sex with my husband has much improved and in some ways has surpassed the sex with my ex.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-83888348541554127602008-03-28T15:08:00.000+00:002008-03-28T15:08:00.000+00:00What an awesome story. You, sir, are quite the wri...What an awesome story. You, sir, are quite the writer.TheTelfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10726790253029374308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-58182433752505296762008-03-28T15:07:00.000+00:002008-03-28T15:07:00.000+00:00Wow.. that was a great post. If only some one had ...Wow.. that was a great post. If only some one had read me John Bellairs when I was a kid!<BR/><BR/>Have a great weekend...danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18049857029232499704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-90841380846405390062008-03-28T14:48:00.000+00:002008-03-28T14:48:00.000+00:00Another great post. I love this blog.Another great post. I love this blog.Hendohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06984475141993771389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3971077270766122919.post-42347840167846659842008-03-28T13:25:00.000+00:002008-03-28T13:25:00.000+00:00I don't know if this really applies but an old chu...I don't know if this really applies but an old chum of mine who was never terribly successful with women has recently moved in with the woman of his dreams and the are both stupidly happy.<BR/><BR/>It made me believe in karma just a little bit.Louchehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10954188299682856196noreply@blogger.com